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Posted 11 months ago

“Both Sok Mian and I have been married for 32 years. Through these 32 years, we have grown to be closer than ever. We started out quite the polar opposite. Sok Mian is more reserved and shy while I tend to be more adventurous and outspoken. But we have learned to make ourselves more suitable for each other. In the early days, we had many cold wars. I didn't know how to deal with my emotions and used to be angry most of the time, especially with issues that we could not agree on. Sok Mian found it very difficult to discuss sensitive issues with me. Cold wars used to be our solution to many of these disagreements. But over the years, through teachings from the church, books, marriage seminars and talks, and through our own reflections, we learned to lay aside our pride and our need to be right and learned skills to have difficult conversations with each other to manage our differences. We believe that building a satisfying marriage requires intentional effort and good marriages don't just happen! Many years ago, I worked with little children. I found them to be so problematic. It took me a while to learn that they are not problematic children, but rather, children with problems. I learned that the problems are with their parents, or more specifically, their parents’ marriage. Sok Mian and I realised that in order to help the children, we have to strengthen their parents and their marriages. That’s when we started to equip ourselves to help couples build strong and growing marriages for their family, for the nation. That’s how we came to be Connect2 Facilitators with Focus on the Family Singapore.” – Nam Seng, Trainer for Connect2, and dad to 2 daughters

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